Forgiving Those That Have Hurt You

Forgiving all of the people who have hurt you is probably going to be one of the hardest things you have to do after all of the chaos and drama, yet it is so necessary in your journey to healing.  It is necessary in order for you to pick up the pieces and get back into living the best life you can live.  Because let’s be honest, you cannot carry forward with a good happy life if you are still stuck on being angry and resentful towards those people.  It will not help you and it will not help the people around you who are still there trying to help you back up.  So somehow, someway you have to find it within yourself to forgive.  But how do you do that when they have inflicted so much pain and suffering and yet they do not even acknowledge it or apologize for it.  Why should you forgive such ugliness and selfishness?  Well you have to do it for yourself.

Forgiveness is the first component to forging onto the road of recovery and healing.  Without it, we will just keep coming up against a roadblock that we cannot knock down.  That is why it is imperative that we do it for ourselves.  So we can go on to live a good happy life.  I find that when I do look at my situation and what happened, I see a lot of unfairness, control and sabotage.  And that is the way it was and the way it is.  And so it is very difficult to say OK I will forgive this man for ruining me and taking away many years of my life in order to satisfy himself.  It is difficult to look at his devilish grins when I run into him and say OK I will forgive him.  I am stuck but he keeps on going without a care.  So how do you forgive when it is so hurtful and difficult?

I believe when the time is right it will just come to you.  I believe that when you are ready to finally let go of all of the garbage and get on with your life, you will do it.  When you have finally just had enough and when you just can’t take anymore of it and you finally see him or them for who they really are.  That’s when you will say OK I am better than this and I will forgive you for all you have done because I deserve it.  Not because you do but because I do.  And that is when you will finally have your breakthrough and that is when you will finally move on to the life that has been waiting for you.

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